Sex and Arthritis.
Last updated Thursday, February 10, 2005
CommunicateHow can a person with arthritis communicate about sex with his or her partner? As you read this information, you'll have new information and ideas
to discuss with your partner about making love. It can be difficult to
begin talking. Some people who joke easily about sex in another
setting, feel awkward talking about their own sex life together.
Talking will become easier after the first time you break the ice and
with each conversation that follows. Here are some other ways to
increase communication with your partner.
Ask your partner to read this information
Then, find a time and private place, free from distractions, to talk about the sexual needs, desires, and ideas you both have.
Try something new
This could provide fresh excitement, comfort, and pleasurable
intimacy. Encourage new ideas in one another, without pressing or
rushing. For example, you might consider creating a novel romantic
setting, changing the place where you usually make love, or discovering
new and pleasurable ways to touch and hold one another. Consider this
an adventure well worth your time and patience.
Let your partner know what feels good
You know what you find comfortable, exciting, or painful. Your
partner knows what you feel only when you tell him or her. Words are
likely to be clearer than smiles or sighs.
Take turns giving each other a gentle massage. This is a good way to
learn to talk about body feelings. When your partner's hand gets near a
painful area of your body, simply redirect it toward a place where you
enjoy the touch most. Continue to share your feelings through words.
Have clear, pre-set signals to let your partner know if you
experience severe pain. A signal can enable you to continue your
love-making on a positive level, rather than bringing it to an abrupt
end because of mutual anxiety.
Open communication about your feelings will end the guesswork
between you and your partner. The reassurance, support, and new
understanding which can come from talking could open the door to a joy
you have never known. Always let your partner know when something
really feels good--this is the most helpful guide you can offer.
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